"Do not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing...." This verse from Hebrews 10 was taught to me long ago as an exhortation to keep going to church, even when you didn't feel like it. Many young believers find getting up for church on Sunday to be a tough habit to form. Staying up late on Saturday night was typical, so was sleeping in on Sunday morning. But if you were a football fan and the Seahawks were playing at 10:00, you could find a way to schlump over to the couch in your pajamas and eat a bowl of cereal while you cheered them on.
It gets even harder when you're older, work at your job all week, and have a houseful of kids to feed and dress before you can sit in a pew and worship. If you're a nursing mother, it may be two or three years before you can sit through an entire service without having to leave and feed and diaper somewhere discreet. In my case, it's multiplied five times. That's eight years of making the effort to go to church, without the expectation of being able to participate in corporate prayer, study, and worship. Mind you, that's not a complaint, just an observation. Ministering to the needs of a new soul is, in no way, a burden...but rather a wonderful blessing. It's easy to worship God when you have a little miracle on your lap, staring up at you with wonder and awe and love.
I think I've learned the lesson to go to church when it's inconvenient, and to keep going when I don't get what I want. Motherhood has helped to peel away those selfish layers which insist on being recognized and appreciated for my "talents" and my "gifts". I'm content to lead but would rather be obscure...knowing through experience that once you lead in the church, pride is a constant and subtle companion, especially to daughters of Eve.
Further, I've found that leading in the church almost always involves confrontation. I'm beginning to understand why St. Paul, in his godly wisdom, did not allow a woman to teach or have Spiritual authority over a man. It's not that women can't think as well as men, or that women aren't as spiritual as men. But true Biblical teaching in the church involves authority in confronting false understanding. This is, essentially, the model that Jesus set. He boldly confronted sin and false understanding as he taught. Therefore, as Paul argued by God's good design, a combative and authoritative role is the role of men, and not women. That the American church has largely abandoned confronting sin and error in favor of feel good sermons and entertainment, is evidence of how far marketing principles have gone to replace Biblical principles.
Some friends, disappointed by the church, have given up on the whole corporate thing. They meet in homes whenever it's convenient, much like a dinner group or cocktail party. Others have gotten a little more organized all call themselves the "Emergent church". They despise orthodoxy as a false construct and embrace their own ideas of community, of beauty, and of "being" the church. They focus on the good works they do, rather than what God has ordained through history and his Word in a careful and deliberate approach to sin, sacrifice, atonement, and redemption. Rather than contending for the Truth, they are demanding the right to elevate their own experiences and understanding above those of the Apostles.
I'm struggling with my own limited understanding and tainted motives in church. I've seen too many leaders walking in sin and the discouragement is a weight I just can't seem to shake. In the past 20 years, in five different churches, I've seen adultery, homosexuality, fornication, and pornography in the leadership. Though none of us are perfect, I don't think it's too much to ask for the shepherds of Christ's church to have developed simple self control and the willingness to flee from sexual immorality. St. Paul and St. Peter had to endure beatings and imprisonment. William Tyndale was burned at the stake. But the church today can't seem to produce Pastors who obey Scripture let alone defend it. Because of this, I can't encourage my sons to trust their Pastors, Sunday School teachers, or worship leaders. Too many are charming experts at talking the talk without walking the walk.
It's no cooincidence then, that the verse from Hebrews that says to "not give up meeting together" is directly followed by this harsh reality."If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. How much more severely do you think a man deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God under foot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified him, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know him who said, "It is mine to avenge; I will repay,"and again, "The Lord will judge his people."It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God."
How do we, as parents, teach our children the discipline of going to church when we can't find a Holy place where they are safe, where their leaders have been purified by Christ, and where such orthodox doctrines of the faith are actually taught and heeded?